How to Repair your relationship after you hurt them

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Anatomy of a sincere apology:

Take responsibility for the hurt you have cause by your actions.

I am sorry for ______ and the way it made you feel ______.

Validate the relationship and commit to trying to be better next time.

I love you, want to make our relationship work and never wanted to make you feel ______. I will do my best to ______ so that I don’t cause you to feel ______ for that again.

Invite them to relationship.

Please forgive me for ______. I want to start fresh and love you better.

This is a simple formula that is difficult to execute in an emotional situation. Our natural tendency is to turn away and be defensive. The point of this formula is to turn toward your spouse in the midst of conflict instead of turning away.